Being a Man™
What’s NewsLetter, Volume 14

The Newsletter for “Being a Man in a Woman’s World™”

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Pick-up/Relationship/Sex Tips

Is there a way to practice your pick-up skills even when you're not hunting?

I hear this question often. Most guys think that the only way to practice your approach and pick-up skills is to get all cleaned up on a Friday or Saturday night and go out to get humiliated by failure until somehow you finally get it all figured out. Obviously, if your skills aren't already huge, then going out to fail isn't going to help you very much. Further, you'll just be blowing otherwise good prospects out of the water!

It's like my dad used to say, "Only perfect practice makes perfect."

So, how do you "practice perfectly" in order to improve these skills?

Actually, it's pretty easy! Just consider the abilities you need in your skill set which are:

 

	The ability to determine context
	The ability to approach
	The ability to break the ice and say "hello"
	The ability to establish rapport and connection
	The ability to close

If you think about it, you can actually practice all of these skills (except the close) anywhere there are other people! These people don't have to be only your target women either. They can be anyone, anywhere, male or female, old or young, big or small, etc.

Let's consider an example: You take your car to the mechanic. While you wait there are often other people there that are waiting for their cars to be fixed too. So, how do you turn this into a practice session? Let's look at the skill set from before and how it could be applied here:

Determine Context

Remember: context is simply asking yourself, "What do my target and I have in common right now?" In this example, your context is car repair. You both are obviously there with your cars. Anything about cars is appropriate, usable context.

The Approach & Breaking The Ice

The actual approach is always the easiest part of any situation. You simply have to use your context element to make the initial approach. For example, you're bored waiting for your car to be finished and want a little entertainment to make the time go faster. Thus, you can break the ice and say "hello" easily.

You could ask, "Man, driving would be such fun if it weren't for the maintenance! Which car is yours?"

This simple, non-threatening opening gives you an instant way to practice your entire game! Once the other person points out their car you can lead to the next practice phase:

Establish Rapport and Connection

You do this by using communication skills (from BAM1 & 2) to ask open-ended questions and to discover the other person's communication styles. Here's one obvious example:

"I've heard those are great cars . What made you buy it?"

Notice that I didn't recommend you ask, "Did you buy it because of the great gas mileage?" or anything so specific. Remember to use open-ended questions!

You can keep this going for quite a while by simply asking one open-ended question after another! Further, you're learning a great deal about your target's communication styles so pay attention. It's with these styles that you will adjust your own speech systems to fit your target and build rapport.

Remember, this is only one example and you can do this almost anywhere! It doesn't matter if you're talking to a man or a woman because you're not going to close anyway. On the other hand, you might decide that you like this person and want to close giving you a chance to practice that skill too.

Set a goal for yourself of meeting at least 3 new people each week just in the course of your day-to-day activities. Unless you're hiding in your home, you can't help but run into people. Each of them is there just so that you can get better at the game! All you have to do is to take advantage of this valuable resource.

Reader Question

I obviously don't know you or your wife to say specifically, but most experts agree that these sort of dramatic changes - especially when the partner isn't consulted on them - is a dangerous sign. It doesn't mean that she either is or is planning on cheating on you, but these are classic symptoms where cheating is happening. The real question is what to do about it.

You have a few choices. You can either bury your head in the sand and wait things out to see what happens, but frankly, I think this is a very poor choice. On the other hand, you really can't accuse her of anything without knowing. She'll only deny it whether something is going on or not.

The fact that your sex life is all but gone also leads me to believe that something is up. This alone gives you the incentive to find out what that is. I suggest that you have a talk with your wife and ask her why she's becoming more distant in the bedroom. I can tell you that she's going to deny that anything is going on - good or bad - but you're now getting things out in the open.

You might even notice that she changes for the better for a short while, but then reverts back to the new pattern. Again, this is a common scenario where she might be afraid that you suspect her and she is trying to cover her tracks.

If you don't see some improvement in things; particularly in the communications, you should probably suspect something is going on. Again, this isn't a guarantee, but you should start keeping track of the bank accounts, credit cards, telephone bills, etc. Likewise, it's reasonable to get to know her friends outside of the house too and you should be invited to any get-togethers with new friends and classmates outside of school.

You should also consider consulting a professional even if your wife won't join you. You need to sort our your own situation here and make some decisions about what you future may look like. Hopefully your wife sees the issues and wants to work on them too but I wouldn't count on this if her focus isn't at home.

Best regards...

Humor

Some deep thoughts:

1. I read recipes the same way I read science fiction. I get to the end and think, "Well, that's not going to happen".
2. Health nuts are going to feel stupid someday. Lying in hospitals dying of nothing.
3. The other night I ate at a really nice family restaurant. Every table had an argument going.
4. Have you noticed since everyone has a camcorder in the car these days no one talks about seeing UFO's like they used to?
5. You know when you're sitting on a chair and you lean back so you're just on two legs then you lean too far and you almost fall over but at the last second you catch yourself? I feel like that all the time.
6. According to a recent survey, men say that the first thing they notice about a woman are their eyes. And women say that the first thing they notice about men is that they're a bunch of liars.
7. Whenever I feel blue, I start breathing again.
8. All of us could take a lesson from the weather. It pays no attention to criticism.
9. Why does a slight tax increase cost you two hundred dollars and a substantial tax cut save you thirty cents?
10. I'm not 40-something.I'm $39.95, plus shipping and handling.
11. In the 60's people took acid to make the world weird. Now the world IS weird and people take Prozac to make it seem normal.
12. Politics is supposed to be the second oldest profession. I have come to realize that it bears a very close resemblance to the first.
13. There is a theory which states that if ever anybody discovers exactly what the Universe is for and why it is here, it will instantly disappear and be replaced by something even more bizarre and inexplicable. There is another theory which states that this has already happened.
14. How is it that one careless match can start a forest fire, but it takes a whole box to start a campfire?
15. Doctors can be frustrating. You wait a month-and-a-half for an appointment, and he says, "I wish you'd have come to me sooner."
16. You read about all these terrorists -- most of them came here legally, but they hung around on these expired visas, some for as long as 10-15 years. Now, compare that to Blockbuster; you are two days late with a video and those people are all over you. Let's put Blockbuster in charge of immigration.

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