Frequently
Asked Questions
We get a very large number of questions from all over the world every day! Many of them are asked over and over again by different people, so in order to give you a quick, easy way to get your answer, we've created this new section.
Please look here before you ask a question that might already have been answered before.
Here's a list of available FAQ's:
| Why Should I buy your books with all the information here on your site for free? |
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Easy - not all of the information you're going to need is here on my site! The site is designed to be an add-on to the books! Once you've read them, the articles on this site will make sense, but everything from the terms we use to methods and techniques to "why does that work?" questions are in the books and recordings only!
Look at what some of
our readers
say:
| "I admit it, I've done it too... reading just the articles, and a few excerpts from the book. then when I had some small successes, I felt like I knew enough and didn't bother to finish the book. Of course shortly thereafter is when I got trampled on and didn't know what to do! I now see the value in reading both BAM books... I'm a very busy person, but I read them both and am now getting the results I expected." - Andy |
| "To be honest with you, I got tired of hearing 'read about the rest of it in my BAM books!' so I ordered the books. I was getting only half (or less) of the damn picture! There are over 500 very good articles, but you just can't tell the complete story via articles. Anyone that doesn't get and memorize these books is in for nothing but trouble! A little knowledge really IS dangerous" - Michael |
| "You were right, Doc! I finally read BAM1 & 2 and NOW I understand what works and what doesn't. It's like a light has been turned on and my relationship is exactly what I dreamed it could be. Thanks from the bottom of my heart." - Kevin |
| "Why did I wait so long to get these books??? Actually, I know why - I just thought I could figure it all out myself, but now I understand. This stuff is simple, but it's not obvious. Thanks guys - you really got me on the right track." - Pete |
| Is this site only for guys that want to pick-up and/or bang a lot of girls? |
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No, it's for any man that wants to know more about meeting, dating, having sex with, establishing short or long-term relationships, handling problems with or anything else related to women.
It's also for women that want to better
understand how men think, speak and act and that want to meet the man of
their dreams too.
| Do you ship my products, ummm... "discretely"? |
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Absolutely! It's nobody else's damn business what you order from us or why. We take our responsibility to protect your privacy very seriously. Any company that you do business with needs to have this attitude. Otherwise, don't do business with them!
| I have this female friend that I want more with, how do I get her to start dating me? |
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Don't bother. You've already become her "friend" which is relationship death. If you want something more with a woman ever, do not become her friend first. Go find someone else and for God's sake - don't become her friend either!
| I don't believe you. I still want to date my friend. Please, please help me! |
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Ok, read these articles from the website:
She Wants To Be a "Friend"
Go From "Friend" to "Boyfriend"
More On "Female Friends"
| How do I approach a woman I've never met? When I approach her what do I say? |
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We teach a little thing called "context". Use context instead of some stupid pick-up line. These pick-up lines never work. Context means, "What do I already know about her that I can use to say 'hello'?" For instance if you're at the coffee shop, you both like coffee. If you're at a bookstore, you can ask her why she is looking at a particular author's work. If you're at the auto shop, you can ask her what's wrong with her car, etc., etc., etc.
This is "context".
Please don't write to me and ask me for one line to use for every situation. That's not context - it just shows what a lazy bastard you are!
| Can you please tell me what to say to get a woman to sleep with me? |
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Sure: "I'm a multi-millionaire and I want to give it all to you for one night of passion."
What's that you say? You're not a multi-millionaire? She laughed when you tried to take her home in your Geo Metro?
There isn't a magic line you can use to get a woman to sleep with you. You need to create that interest in her by establishing rapport and connection. The good news is that this works just like panty-grease!
| How do I keep a conversation going? |
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See the following articles:
The Art of Conversation
How to Never Be At a Loss for Words
Follow-Up On How to Never Be At a Loss For Words
| Why aren't all your books available as e-books? |
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We have spent many years researching, testing, adjusting, testing again, editing, refining, etc., all of the information you learn from our books, CD's, articles, videos and software. This is a very expensive and time-consuming process! We don't simply read something someone else writes and then "make it our own" like many others who claim to be "experts" in this area.
Producing hard-copy books is also very expensive and time-consuming. Once a book begins it's life as a creative spark, hundreds or even thousands of hours, many thousands of dollars and many professional people are all involved in getting it published. E-books on the other hand cost very little (or nothing!) to produce! We could save all of this time, money and hassle by doing what everyone else is doing - producing e-books.
So, why work this hard?
Simple: while anyone can create an e-book for free, exceedingly few can produce a real book. After spending the huge amounts on producing the information, the costs and hassles of creating a book don't seem that great!
More important, the quality of the information is often reflected in the quality of the product. Think about that the next time you consider buying an e-book from someone on the internet. Where did they get the information? What effort did they go through to get it? Did they really discover or create this information or did they get it from someone else that did? Can I really rely on what I'm reading to help me or is this just more "smoke and mirrors"?
We constantly see our hard work reproduced by others that simply lifted it from us. Ok, fine. The problem is that these same people have no background or foundation in the information that they sell you - and many simply get it wrong! Knowing why something is true is much more important than simply knowing the fact itself because you can then help others to actually use that information.
When you get one of our products, you know that it is "the source" of the information and that it is entirely reliable. We stand behind it 100%!
E-book-only
producers make you question what you're buying.
| My boyfriend/girlfriend said we had to take a "break". How long should I wait for this to end? |
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Well, actually, you're already too late. A "break" is something that a couple decides together. It's not something that one person decides for the relationship. More important, it has very clear, specific rules and a timeframe. When someone tells you they want a "break", it's just that they are too big a coward to tell you they want to break-up. There's bunch you can do about this however! Contact us right away and get the whole story.
| How long do I wait to call someone whose phone I just got? |
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It depends. In general wait at least 4-5 days. Only if she was asking you to come back to her place and you had to turn her down because your mom was done buying you underwear should you call her in less than this timeframe. If you're really trying to build suspense, wait 2 weeks. If you wait longer than 3-4 weeks, don't be surprised if she claims to have forgotten who you are. Timing in the call-back is an important consideration, but being too early is far worse than being too late.
| What about long-distance relationships? ("LDR's") |
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Forget them. They never work out. Worse, you're just going to go through all sorts of anxiety wondering who else she's meeting, having drinks with, who that masculine-sounding "friend" in the background is, etc. Then you're going to spend a small fortune on phone calls and plane tickets. It's impossible to keep LDR's going.
Further, are you trying to tell me that you can't meet any great women in your own city? You are one lazy bastard! Get your ass out there and meet some new people already! It's easy, fun and proven effective!
| Can I get any girl I want? |
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Wouldn't it be great if this were so? The fact is, life isn't this simple. There are 10,000 reasons why you can't have a particular woman. Then, there are 10,000 more for another. However, there are many, many women you CAN have. This is what we work for.
Anyone that claims you can have any girl you ever wanted should make you break out in a full belly-laugh. Then, you should stop reading anything that person ever writes or listening to anything they ever say again!
Let's spend our time focusing on reality and possibility. You
really CAN have the relationship and the women you want, just not any or all women
you want.
| My wife/girlfriend/husband/boyfriend isn't interested in sex any more! Help! |
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Unfortunately, this is a very common scenario. It's normal (even common) for sex to become less frequent once a relationship is established or someone is married, but frankly, sex is one of the most important aspects of the relationship!
You really have only a few options here:
1) Learn to live with things the way they are - and masturbate more.
2) Continue to try to talk to your partner, try counseling, etc., hoping things will change.
3) Dissolve the relationship or marriage and find someone that is your sexual equal.
4) Find your sexual release outside your relationship.
None of these are really great options. However, you and your partner both have responsibilities here to each other. In my opinion, if s/he can't fulfill her/his responsibilities, you might need to find it elsewhere.
First, if you're going to do this, you must absolutely NOT allow your primary partner to find out - ever! Don't leave clues around and don't allow him or her to find out. This is critical. If you can't handle the guilt involved, don't do it in the first place. All you'll do is harm her or him in the process, destroy your relationship or marriage, damage your partner and you will still have the guilt anyway!
Second, you have to protect yourself. That means using condoms every single time - no expectations, and choosing partners that will absolutely not come back to you later and try to do damage to your relationship.
Third, you have to be careful about your emotions here. If you fall in love with someone else, your relationship or marriage is definitely going to be affected by it.
If you can do these three things you'll probably be ok. Otherwise, you should consider dissolving things and moving on.
| There's this really sweet, beautiful, wonderful girl (or great, incredible guy) that I know and I think I'm in love with, but I'm too scared to ask out. What do I do? |
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Well, you could join a monastery, or turn gay. How does that sound?
The fact is, it's YOUR job (as the man) to approach women - and they know it! You're going to either have to get over that fear of approaching, or just decide to live a celibate life. The choice is yours, but before you decide, just realize that you have many tools at your disposal to help you learn how to approach women with confidence and success. It's really not that hard!
If you're a woman then you have two choices: either learn to approach men (something every single woman should know how to do!) or learn how to get men to approach you. The first option is by far the easiest and doesn't carry the stigma it once did.
You're not "too scared" or "too shy" or "lack confidence" or any of these things. In fact this isn't about fear, shyness or confidence at all! It's about education. Let's say that you knew exactly how to approach women (or men) and to get exactly what you wanted. Would you then be too scared, shy or lack confidence to use those skills? Of course not!
Thus, all you need to do is to get your education about
these things straightened out. You should start with
"Being a Man in a Woman's World™".
| Can you tell me what she/he is thinking? Here's my story... |
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There's just too much involved in why people do what they do, think what they think or say what they say. All I can do is answer your specific question about you, dating, sex, your relationship, etc. Please don't ask me to read minds.
I suggest you lay off of her before the police come knockin' on your door! Gushing your feelings to a girl isn't going to make her fall in love with you. That's what girls do - not men. If she wants to date girls, you're not for her anyway. You need to learn how the game is played and fix your approach here. You've already blown her totally out of the water and aren't going to get her back, so you need to move on, heal and learn how the game is played.
The good news is that this site if FULL of tools to help you learn. I suggest you get started this very minute.
| But Doc, I REALLY love this girl! Please help me! |
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Ok, I'm going to help you: forget this girl and move on! Relationships are fragile things as it is. By doing this much damage, you're never going to fix things to the point that you'll ever have her in the future. Until you let her go completely, YOU are never going to heal so that you CAN have the relationship you want.
Sorry, but that's the fact. Somebody has to give it to you straight.
So, get started healing right now. Don't waste another minute here as you're going absolutely nowhere. Until you get things corrected within yourself, you're never going to be able to move on and find a healthy, happy relationship. So DO IT NOW!
By the way, if you don't follow this [excellent] advice, don't bother writing me from jail asking what to do next.
| How do I impress a girl so that she'll go out with me? |
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Actually, that's pretty easy. All you need to do is find a burning building with someone's baby caught on the 6th floor. Then, rush in, risking life and limb and save the baby. Be sure to inhale a lot of smoke and get filthy in the process so that you'll look like a hero when you come out.
Ok, here's the real answer: you don't. What you're hoping is that things will work just like they do in the movies - you impress some girl so much that she falls in love with you and does all your work for you. The problem is that this only happens in the movies.
Instead, save yourself all those nights crying yourself to sleep and listen up: you just have to learn how the courting game is played. It's not that difficult and anyone (even you, Binky!) can learn it. Then, you'll have everything you need to win the girls you want.
Women see men that try to "impress them" as someone that has to work this hard because they have nothing else going for him. They learn to avoid this type of guy very early on, so don't be like him by trying to impress a girl!!! Learn what REALLY works instead!